Abortion [link]

Here is a story on the 'life' of a foetus. It is told from the perspective of a yet-to-be-born baby. Below are my thoughts after reading the article.

Link: http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/note.php?note_id=423402927864&comments

"Critically analyzing this, you cant say that the mother is stupid or anything. You have to weigh the different factors that led up to the abortion and not just read a story of pre-existence and conclude that abortion can be helped and people who abort their children are stupid, irresponsible or whatever negative words you can come up with.

I would say this story appeals to all those who think abortion is unreasonable and bad. The mother cannot be directly blamed, although she DID directly cause the death of her possible child.

Do you think it is easy on the mother as well? Of course not, no matter how much a woman tries to take her mind off the fact that she aborted a baby, it is never possible for her to release herself of that emotional and psychological trauma.

Most of the time, it is not the woman herself who wants to abort the child but due to external factors, like her other half (partner) - he may not want a child, or they may not be ready to have one. Therefore, an abortion is applied for.

I am not against abortion, I am against engaging in sexual intercourse when you're not ready to; it leads up to these sort of situations where you throw away the life of a beautiful being.

Birth is a wonderful thing. It brings the life of yet another beautiful being into the world, be it a human or an animal. Don't take sex lightly, or you could end up in such a nasty situation; taking away one's chance to live."

These are just my opinions, I hope that nobody takes offence after reading the above-mentioned statements.

Firsts

Welcome back aboard Mr Lee.

The above is a short monologue that took place a few seconds ago.

Right now, to the main point: Firsts!

In life, there are many things to do. Many, many, the myriad of the many. There are so many things to do, so many countless things to do.

I mean, you could count one, two, three and... four and... (I get the point. Wait, I'm talking to myself again)

Okay, to the really real real main point about firsts.

For teenagers, especially the secondary school students, it is mostly all about firsts. There are things like first F9 (feels bad), first bully (feels bad), first crush (could feel bad), first laptop (feels good), first... Yes, there are many firsts for a teenager.

From the above, perhaps you can infer that I am implying that the nature of firsts for teenagers is bad.

I would say that the statement I just made, is mostly true. For most teenagers, especially those around Secondary One and Two, most of their time is spent exploring things they had never experienced before. By that, I do not necessarily mean dating and sex but they are some of them.

First relationships do not necessarily always end in a painful manner, i.e. the girl or boy finds that his/her partner is incompatible and decides to break up. Worst case scenario is the boy/girl tells the girl/boy 'I am breaking up with you because I am just not interested in you anymore'.

If the above seems incredulous, believe me, you have not seen one of the most horrible sides of human nature yet.

I have a friend who's girlfriend broke up with him because she felt uninterested in him, just after a mere month or two.

So much for commitment.

These are one of the reasons why adults/parents always tell their young ones not to get into relationships too early because they might be unable to handle the emotional strain and stress that may arise from such cases, as mentioned above.

I, for one, very strongly disagree with the majority of parents' type of thoughts. Age is not the biggest factor in the world of relationships; there is a whole lot more to it than just figures.

The strength, length and result of a relationship is heavily reliant on the couple itself, i.e. the degree of commitment they are willing to show in their relationship, the maturity factor (refers to teenagers) and much more.

The amount of maturity a teenager has, will most definitely affect the degree of commitment he/she is willing to show in a relationship. The ones with more maturity might even turn down the thought of getting into a relationship if they know that all they would get is a 'happily-never-after' at the end of it all.

Posted below will be a few firsts and what to expect (or what I think you should expect). Of course, the target audience is that of students between 13-15 years old (exploration phase [makes it sound like a scientific probe or deep-space journey]).

First relationships,

Never expect it to work out too well. It could work out very well if you choose the right person and do the right things.

In fact, you might actually want to consider not getting into a relationship at this age because... Things like breaking up with someone because you lose interest in that person could happen and you could end up extremely upset. It would then be followed by much self-reflection: 'Why did she break up with me? Is it because I'm not interesting enough? Am I that bad?'

I'm implying there's a lot more to breaking up then just leaving each other. There's heavy emotional strain on both parties (especially the one being broken up with) and you might end up so upset that you are unable to concentrate on anything else except the past.

First relationships could also open paths up to other things, temptations.

Relationships can make both parties open up to activities that involve much physical contact between the two parties, e.g. hugging, kissing and maybe, sex.

First... hugs???,

You can't really expect much from a hug I suppose. Seriously.

First kiss,

They describe it as the warm, fuzzy feeling that spreads through you as your lips press tenderly against your partner's for the first time.

Well, let me tell you, you can only do it once. Why? Because it's called your first kiss, not your first kiss with [insert name].

Cherish it, don't give it away anyhow. Which brings me to another point: don't get into relationships for the sake of physical contact with a person of the opposite sex whom you find attractive.

Indeed, it is stupid, low and hurtful to do such things.

First erm, time engaging in sexual intercourse,

Erm, hoho, I am not very specialized in areas that people are meant to be specialized in before they talk about, so I shall not say much but elaborate on one major point.

The major point is the whole idea of sexual intercourse - to both parties. Males normally do it for the pleasure. Females normally do it because they love the man they are doing it with.

I would like males to think about the consequences of having sex too early; premarital sex.

Just think about it.